Even if you have a great partner, it's normal to feel bored with sex in a long-term romantic relationship. Passionate sex isn't always there, and sometimes your mind or body gets in the way.
What is boring sex?
Everyone has a different definition of boring, so there's no one standard for boring sex. Everyone's tastes and needs for sex vary, and they don't always match. Because life stresses mean you spend less time having sex, sex can sometimes become a chore. But the good news is that this can be turned around.What causes this boredom?
Boredom may not be caused by sex itself, but by external factors. There are many reasons for this, such as relationship and emotional problems, life stress, anxiety and depression. There are also physical factors, such as pain, sexual dysfunction and endurance problems, or side effects of some medications, which can lead to boring sex.
How to make your sex life more interesting
You can try many new ways to change your existing sex life and inject new vitality and freshness. You can try to make changes from the following points.
1. Communicate with your partner
If you are dissatisfied with your existing sex life, the first and most important step is to have an open discussion with your partner, understand each other's demands and wishes, and find out the reasons why sex is boring. At the same time, communication is also a good thing to talk about sex with your partner and enhance your understanding of each other. Be careful not to criticize your partner in this process. You can try, for example, I miss the spark I once had, I want to get it back, maybe we can try some new bedroom games.
2. Arrange sex
When it comes to arranging sex, do you think it is bad and loses the spontaneity of sex. But in fact, it is not the case. Arranging sex can also be spontaneous, and it can make our sex life frequency healthier and help maintain the relationship with your partner. At the same time, arranging sex has many benefits. It can make us better prepared for sex, increase sexual excitement and sexual tension, and there will be no interference from other things.
3. Add sex toys
If you want to make your bedroom games more interesting, sex toy is a good choice. And there are many types and functions of sex toys for you to choose from. The addition of sex toys can add freshness and interest to your sex life, and there are more choices and ways to explore.
4. Try new activities
Try new activities to better discover your preferences. Trying new things is also an interesting adventure. Before starting to try new activities, the most important thing is to communicate and communicate with your partner and get your partner's consent. Consent is a very sexy thing. New activities that can be tried include role-playing, trying BDSM, temperature games and sensory games.
5. Change scenes and postures
If you feel bored with missionary, try to stay away from the bed and try some new scenes and postures. For example, try in the bathroom, on the sofa, in the car, even on the terrace, or outdoors. If you want to try outdoors, choose a quiet place with few people to protect your privacy and safety. Try to change the postures you are familiar with. Don't underestimate this little change, it will make you experience different feelings and excitement.
6. Explore sexual kinks and fantasies
Common sexual kinks include BDSM, role-playing, fetishes, fantasies, etc., and according to a 2017 study of more than 1,000 adults, more than half of them are interested in kinks. Understanding each other's sexual kinks and preferences can make your sex life more diverse and interesting. Exploring is not only a fun adventure, but also a good opportunity to get closer to each other.
You can also make a yes, no, maybe list, which can not only help you understand each other's boundaries, but also make it easier to record and modify.
7. Seek help from a doctor
If you are in a long-term romantic relationship, being in boring sex for a long time will greatly affect your relationship and feelings. Then it is necessary to seek help from a third party, such as a doctor, psychologist, and sex therapist. Going with your partner can help you solve the problems in your relationship and find the spark you once had.