First, let's understand what exactly is sexual attraction? Sexual attraction is the attraction of people to desire sexual contact and to show sexual interest in other people. This may sound hard to understand, after all this is hard to explain through words, how sexual attraction happens in the brain. This next article will go into more detail about how sexual attraction affects us.
What does sexual attraction feel like?
What do we feel when we are attracted? Some common reactions to being attracted are, dilated pupils, stomach rolls, increased heart rate, flushed skin and other symptoms. This attraction can even stimulate your libido, a physical response.
Factors affecting sexual attraction
Adrenaline: The drawbridge effect, which I'm sure many of us have heard of, is a study of the relationship between adrenaline and sexual attraction, and research has shown that people are more likely to be attracted to each other and feel sexually attracted to each other on dangerous bridges than on sturdy ones.
Natural scents: the sense of smell is also a very important factor that affects attraction, studies have shown that people feel attraction differently to different smells, and people are more inclined to scents that are different from their own immune system.
Psychological Factors: Emotions People are attracted to people who are similar to them, and how good or bad their emotions are can also affect sexual attraction. We are subconsciously attracted to values that are similar to ours.
Other factors: such as specific experiences, and memories, or pleasant experiences.
Is sexual attraction immediate?
It is possible that you are immediately interested in being attracted to someone, for example a beautiful woman in a bar will make you instantly attracted to someone. But attraction isn't only instant; you can build sexual attraction only after you've been together for a while.
Does a relationship necessarily require sexual attraction to be established?
The answer is no, even if you are not sexually attracted to each other, you can still be very good at building a healthy, temperature happy relationship. Sexual attraction is not a key factor in building a relationship.
The importance of sexual attraction varies from relationship to relationship. Then sexual attraction affects you differently, and you can find out how important sexual attraction is to you by asking a few questions.
- what is most important to you in a relationship?
- how important sex with your partner is in the relationship
- what your ideal intimate relationship looks like
- What you look forward to in terms of your sex life, and how often you have sex
Understanding how important sexual attraction is to you will allow you to better deal with how it affects you. While sexual attraction is important, a relationship can't be sustained by sexual attraction alone, or a sex life, unless it's a fully sexual relationship. In order for a relationship to last longer, we need more than just sexual attraction, but also communication, trust, and mutual respect.
So how do I develop sexual attraction?
Sexual attraction can be instantaneous or it can be built up gradually over time. So sexual attraction can be cultivated. If you want to increase your sexual attraction, here are a few tips to help you develop it.
1. Self-expression
Self-disclosure can be a great way to show sex appeal, such as sharing and communicating your experiences, childhood, insecurities and vulnerable place thoughts to your partner. Although sometimes sharing these can make you feel insecure, talking about them with your partner can bring you closer together and build a better connection.
If you are not able to bring up these topics well, you can get to know each other better through games or specialized intimacy quizzes or the like, which can help to build intimacy and enhance the bond better.
2. Cultivate intimacy
Sexual attraction can be instantaneous, but it can also be built over time. If you develop a sense of intimacy and emotion with someone, it can build a great sexual attraction. Due to the combination of dopamine and adrenaline, it can make us more excited.
3. Communication
Communication is a very important part of a relationship, it can solve most of the problems we have in a relationship. And talking about sex, about sexual preferences, boundaries, each other's sexual desires, what you want the other person to do during sex, or those behaviors that you like your partner to do during sex, etc., not only contributes to a better sex life, but it can also make the relationship better. Whether you want a better sex life or to improve the problems in the relationship, you need to communicate well, communication is the cornerstone of a relationship.