Erotic fantasies are deep-seated sexual desires that turn us on, excite us, and make us long for them to come true. So what exactly is a sexual fantasy? Are my sexual fantasies normal? This article will enhance your understanding of sexual fantasies and what you need to be aware of when bringing them into the bedroom?
What is a sexual fantasy?
Sexual fantasies are a form of mental imagery that can help to arouse our sexual desires and enhance stimulation and sexual experiences. Do you fantasise during sex, or when your libido is high, whether it's sex that hasn't happened, taboo, or kinky sex. Sexual fantasies are a can be arousing and stimulating.
Are my sexual fantasies normal?
Sexual fantasies are healthy and normal, whether they are kinky or taboo. Whilst some sexual fantasies are not suitable to bring into real life, there are some regular sexual fantasies that can add a new level of interest to your sex life. Examples include BDSM, role-playing, open relationships, fetishes, and more. However, if your sexual fantasies are seriously affecting your life and your psyche, then it's time to seek help from a third party, such as a psychiatrist and sex therapist.
Why do people have sexual fantasies?
While having sexual fantasies is a normal thing to do, it can fluctuate over time or other factors. Here are a few reasons why sexual fantasies arise or are affected.
1. Wanting to experience sexual arousal
Sexual fantasies can arouse you, no matter what type of sexual fantasy you have. For example, having sex in public, specific roles and scenarios, or being attracted to submission, domination, and bondage. Sexual fantasies can make your body more aroused and get into the mood faster.
2. Unmet needs
Whether you're single or in a long-term romantic relationship, unmet needs are a likely occurrence. Or they feel bored and lack passion in their sex life. Then timely communication about each other's sexual fantasies can go a long way to avoiding conflict, as well as enhancing the fun and experience of sex.
If it is for sexual fantasies that can't be brought to the bedroom, then this can be created boldly by using your imagination. You can also use pornographic videos, audio, books, or sex toy.
3. Curiosity about new and exciting experiences
Curiosity drives us to try new things and new experiences, and sexual fantasies are no exception. With the spread of pornography, some sex is exaggerated and exaggerated, which also increases people's curiosity. If you don't have a clear sexual fantasy at the moment, then watching pornography can help you explore your sexual fantasies.
4. Escape from reality
Try to unleash your desires in your sex life and try to stimulate novelty. It can save us from life for a short time. Who doesn't want to escape from the stress and worries of reality for a short time? Let's try to explore sexual fantasy, better experience and enjoy the pleasure sex brings us.
5. Fulfilling Taboo Desires
Although the definition of taboo is different for everyone, the taboo itself will bring us great attraction. It drives our inner desire. However, it is important to note that if you want to try a taboo sexual fantasy, then open communication is necessary. And make sure it's consensual and safe to do so.
How do I put my sexual fantasies into action?
If you have identified your sexual fantasies and want to try to incorporate them into your bedroom play. Then here are a few tips that you need to be aware of. Not only will they enhance your experience, but they will keep you safe.
1. Consent is key
Communication is everything if you want to get your partner's consent. Try to have open communication with your partner about your sexual fantasies, understand each other's wishes, and bring the fantasies you want to try into your bedroom play. Communication is about understanding your partner's wishes and making sure that both parties are consenting.
2. Understanding each other's boundaries
Communicate to understand each other's preferences and boundaries, set rules and respect each other's boundaries. Safe words are recommended for better exploration, as well as to protect each other. If you're not sure what safety words to use, start by experimenting with a signalling system, e.g. red is forbidden, green is proceed, yellow is proceed with caution. Or take a specific action, such as picking up a specific item in your hand if you are not allowed to make a sound.
3. Take protective measures
If you are not having sex with the intention of getting pregnant then at all times I would recommend that you take protective measures. This not only effectively reduces the probability of pregnancy, as well as sexually transmitted infections, but also protects our safety and health.